Intense emotional suffering caused by loss; acute sorrow
John 11:32-37 King James Version (KJV)
32 Then when Mary was come where Jesus was, and saw him, she fell down at his feet, saying unto him, Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died.
33 When Jesus therefore saw her weeping, and the Jews also weeping which came with her, he groaned in the spirit, and was troubled.
34 And said, Where have ye laid him? They said unto him, Lord, come and see.
35 Jesus wept.
36 Then said the Jews, Behold how he loved him!
37 And some of them said, Could not this man, which opened the eyes of the blind, have caused that even this man should not have died?
The other 2 occasions when Jesus grieved in scripture.
Isaiah 53:3 King James Version (KJV)
3 He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
Hebrews 4:15 King James Version (KJV)
15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.
Compare and Contrast Empathy vs. Sympathy:
- The ability to identify with or understand another’s situation or feelings. See Synonyms at pity.
- The attribution of one’s own feelings to an object:
- A feeling of pity or sorrow for the distress of another; commiseration. See Synonyms at pity.
- often sympathies An expression of such feeling: .
- a. Mutual understanding or feeling between people:
- Agreement with or support for an opinion or position:
- often sympathies A tendency to support a position or opinion:
What is the difference between empathy and sympathy?
Both empathy and sympathy are feelings concerning other people. Sympathy is literally ‘feeling with’ – compassion for or commiseration with another person. Empathy, by contrast, is literally ‘feeling into’ – the ability to project one’s personality into another person and more fully understand that person. Sympathy derives from Latin and Greek words meaning ‘having a fellow feeling’. The term empathy originated in psychology (translation of a German term, c. 1903) and has now come to mean the ability to imagine or project oneself into another person’s position and experience all the sensations involved in that position. You feel empathy when you’ve “been there”, and sympathy when you haven’t. http://dictionardy.reference.com/help/faq/language/d23.html
“Greater impact in Ministry is often associated with empathy or sympathy for the lost.” REB
“Being Considerate and Empathetic towards others is a sign of intelligence.” REB
Christians grieve with the hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
“Biblical Figures who had grieved and made a bad choice but SNAPPED OUT OF IT”
- Prodigal Son… left home
- Nebuchadnezzar… lifted with pride
- Jonah… went the wrong way
Once you find the grass is not greener… you come to your senses. A negative response after succumbing to false freedom is Blame-shifting.
“Grief is a necessary part of emotional healing
Often times men and women grieve differently (key to understanding is empathy (page 114).
e.g. men may hunt women may shop
Loss is built into the definitive role of grief, The process of working through loss is the process of grief (see three stages pages 115-116)
It’s healthy for men to cry. Tears made during moments of grief contain toxins produced internally. Negative (vibrations) energy is released through crying.
“A temporary catharsis is good but extended prolonged acting out is an aberration from normal behavior.” RE Boswell
“Wise decision making comes from seeking God’s wisdom. Wise choices come from seeking God’s will. They result in following His ways.” Charles Stanley
“…The testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy…” (Revelation 19:10).