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Textual Definition: The physical union of a man and a woman that results in physical, relational and spiritual oneness.

Biblical Insight: I Corinthians 6:15-20

“Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never!

(16) Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.

(17) But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

(18) Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

(19) Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;

(20) you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”



A Closer Look!


In the scripture Paul highlights the Greek way of thinking is much different than today. The Apostle Paul addresses the Corinthians who were located in an ancient metropolitan of strategic importance for the spreading of the gospel. In the most prominent point of Corinth stood the pagan temple dedicated to the worship of Aphrodite (Greek) or Venus (Roman) the goddess of love and beauty. Sex played a part in the worship in this the temple housed one thousand prostitute priestesses. When Paul visited Corinth (Acts 18:1-18; Romans 16:21; 1 Corinthians 9:20). The Lord commanded him to speak boldly, and he did so, remaining in the city eighteen months. Finding strong opposition in the synagogue he left the Jews and went to the Gentiles (Acts 18:6). In Corinth Aphrodite worship Paul’s task to inform Christians in that environment that Christians should not practice fornication.


Today, the infusion of sex by media advertisement and main stream society is by design to appeal to our human desire as sexual creatures. We are sexual creatures as well as physical, intellectual and social. “The body is not for sexual immortality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body” (I Corinthians 6:13). Man is a spirit that has a soul and lives in a body this is the correct order. However, before we are converted many believe that man is a body, soul then spirit. Satan uses this nature to foster error upon the earth.



Our sexually is a key part of our humanity, therefore…


• Satan uses this to entice man to sin.

• Satan uses sex to develop strongholds in the lives of people.

• Satan uses sex to make slaves and influence people to defile their temples.

• Satan he wishes to be enthroned in your heart by enticements that appeal to our  humanity.

“You are not your own.”  What is meant by this Scripture text 

Sex outside of the parameters that God has set forth is destroying families, teenagers, children, churches and every social institution in this nation. The damaging effects of sexual relationships effects Prince and Pauper, Christians and non Christians, Saved or unsaved. The statistics for pornography use is the same for those inside the church and outside the church also the rate of adultery is consistent with rather in church or out of the church.

Pornography: How do committed Christian men become addicted?

Porn is gaining a stranglehold on mainstream American culture. One reason is the false message that porn viewing is harmless and socially acceptable for the sexually frustrated. One reason it is not harmless is the number of casual porn viewers who end up sexually addicted. This describes the very real problem of extreme sexual behavior that is destructive to self and others. In his research, John found that experts believe tens of millions of people are addicted to sex.

The use of pornographic material among Christians continues to rise, reaching near epidemic proportions in the church. A study by Internet Filter Review revealed that 53 percent of Promise Keeper men viewed pornography the week before the survey.


INTIMACY (in-to-me-see) the goal


God designed Sex to take place in a relationship of marriage when taken outside of these confines it damages a person’s ability to be intimate.

When committing sexual immorality your just hurting yourself (I Cor. 6:18) intimacy in marriage many times requires personal sacrifice that fulfills your spouses need emotional detachment in godly relationships may result in sin.

God hears your prayers in healthy relationships. 

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (I Peter 3:7).



Caveat emptor” Let the Buyer Beware

Satan’s increasing his attacks and wants people to be afraid. Satan doesn’t let up because his time is short. Satan uses the same deceptions as he used in the Garden of Eden. Revelation 12:12


Same Tactics – Different Day

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world” (I John 2:16).


Evil’s First Encounter with humanity

For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise” (Genesis 3:5-6).

First “the lust of the flesh”
And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food

Second: “the lust of the eyes”
it was pleasant to the eyes
“For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.” (Romans 8:6).

Third: “the pride of life”
desired to make one wise: Extremely tempting and appealing to the intellect, A misdirection of authority. …”Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edified” (1 Cor. 8:1a).


“Eni bimo fun ni kuro laale eni” (a baby mother is no more a concubine or mistress). Yoruba adage

The Bible is clear adultery is sin. However, what constitute adultery depends on the society you are in or what your moral values have. In several societies were polygamy is accepted, marrying several women does not constitute adultery or having concubines all over town. In America since the Clinton-Lewinski scandal the society has tried to re-define adultery and fornication. Baby Boomers call it shacking, today they call various fornicating activities called, “friends with benefit” and “rainbow party” and they see nothing wrong with these activities.

As a Christian and a believer in the infallibility of the scripture, I believe the biblical definition of adultery, which is having relationship (sexual or emotional) with someone outside of the boundaries of marriage (one man and one woman). When a married man or woman is involved in such acts it is called “adultery” and when an unmarried person is involved in such acts, it is called “fornication.”

Divorce Rates

According to Barna “In fact, when evangelicals and non-evangelical born again Christians are combined into an aggregate class of born again adults, their divorce figure is statistically identical to that of non-born again adults: 32% versus 33%, respectively.”




It’s possible!

In Matthew 5: 27-28, Jesus took the definition of adultery to a new level

“You have heard that it was said, do not commit adultery, but I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

If you will allow God to have control of your sexual desire, He will show you how to live with a pure heart, whether you are married or single. Jesus was single Paul was single Hosea well that’s another lesson. Still, the lessons from Hosea can inspire some to remain pure while single.



Hand Book for Christian Living:


Study Guide for Charles Stanley, Handbook for Christian Living (pg. 449)
Study Guide for Charles Stanley, Handbook for Christian Living (pg. 449)


There are 8 units in our text 1. Church Concerns 2. Daily Living 3. Doctrine 4. End Times 5. Personal Growth 6. Relationships 7. Service/ Out-reach and 8. Spiritual Disciplines. Relationships involve: Accountability, Children, Family, Friends, Loneliness, Love, Parenting, Reconciliation, Seeking Approval and Sex. Sex is included in the Relationships unit.

“…The testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy…”

                                                                                              Revelation 19:10


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