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To make concessions in order to gain something

Art by Alan Hicks, Source: June-2012-COGIC-Young-Adults-Sunday School Quarterly
SOLOMAN’s Wisdom proved early as depicted in painting by Alan Hicks, Source: June-2012-COGIC-Young-Adults-Sunday School Quarterly

Scripture: I Kings 11: 1-13

1 But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites; 2 Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love. 3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart. 4. For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.5 For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites.6 And Solomon did evil in the sight of the LORD, and went not fully after the LORD, as did David his father. 7 Then did Solomon build an high place for Chemosh, the abomination of Moab, in the hill that is before Jerusalem, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon. 8 And likewise did he for all his strange wives, which burnt incense and sacrificed unto their gods. 9 And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel, which had appeared unto him twice, 10 and had commanded him concerning this thing that he should not go after other gods: but he kept not that which the LORD commanded. 11 Wherefore the LORD said unto Solomon, Forasmuch as this is done of thee, and thou hast not kept my covenant and my statutes, which I have commanded thee, I will surely rend the kingdom from thee, and will give it to thy servant. 12 Notwithstanding in thy days I will not do it for David thy father’s sake: but I will rend it out of the hand of thy son. 13 Howbeit I will not rend away all the kingdom; but will give one tribe to thy son for David my servant’s sake, and for Jerusalem’s sake which I have chosen .


“This is a day of diplomats not prophets.  It is nicer to be an appeaser than an opposer.  It is the day of Erasmus, not Luther; of Gamaliel, not Paul.” Vance Havner (1901 – 1986)


1.  A person appointed by a national government to conduct official negotiations and maintain political, economic, and social relations with another country or countries.

2. A person who is tactful and skillful in managing delicate situations, handling people, etc.


a person who speaks for God or a deity, or by divine inspiration


General Question 1: Does the Ends justify the Means?

[Answer No: “And if a man also strive for masteries, yet is he not crowned, except he strive lawfully” (II Tim. 2:5)].



General Question 2: Is it better to learn by experience or learn from observation and the wisdom of others?

       (Answer: We are considered wise when we learn for the mistakes of others.)

General Theme: The Heart

General Topic:

Healthy compromise is demonstrated when we are able to give in without sacrificing our values and beliefs.” Page 65

Sibling rivalry
Sibling rivalry


Give examples of healthy compromise:

 In relationships_____________________________________________________________

In the workplace_______________________________________________________________

At home in your family__________________________________________________________________

At church__________________________________________________________________

In society__________________________________________________________________

Conversely, unhealthy compromise is always contradictory to God’s laws and principles for living.  It diverts us from the right attitude of obedience to the dangerous ground of independence apart from God. (Paraphrased from pg 65) 

  1. 1.      Pharaoh’s daughter received riches into her dowry her marriage to Solomon this was diplomatic matrimony (I King 9:16).
  1. 2.      God had put wisdom in Solomon’s heart, if one so wise can be swayed, What about us?
  1. 3.      Solomon compromised the wisdom that God put in his heart (Deut 7:3)

a)      Empathize  Heart-Luke 8:1-15 ”The Parable of the Sower, But that on the good ground are they, which in an honest and good heart having heard the word, keep it, and bring forth with patience.” 

b)      Good ground is maintained by deliberate acts of obedience (Pg 66) and casting down imaginations (II Cor. 10:5).



  1. Admiration– (Sin begins as a thought, Matthew 5:28) Obedience to God’s Law no longer held the place of importance in Solomon’s heart that it once had.  The magnetic allure of the “grass being greener on the other side of the fence” is an illusion grounded in man’s covetous nature.
  2. Association,Visualization, Intense focus leads to association.  “Solomon clung to these in love” (I Kings 11:2).
  3. Involvement was the natural course of association “For it was so, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned his heart after other gods” (I Kings 11:4).  An undesirable testimony that we can learn from.
  4. Possession the compromise is usually subtle at first but concludes in a total abandonment to disobedience. (I.e. common addict’s testimony- cigarette-beer-whiskey-marijuana-cocaine-crack-crime-homelessness, etc.)


POV: Point of View

Armed with this knowledge why argue that drinking a little wine or some other seeming insignificant indulgence is not wrong, when the final stages in many cases lead to dire circumstances. (Page 68)


Do you know that friendship with the world is enmity with God?

Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God” (James 4:4).


Study Guide for Charles Stanley, Handbook for Christian Living: COMPROMISE
Study Guide for Charles Stanley, Handbook for Christian Living: COMPROMISE, Page 65


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